I saw a post on Instagram about the level of patience men exhibit when they are waiting in-line to buy condoms. Most shops in Lagos Nigeria keep the condoms beside the cashier, I don’t know the reasons for doing that but most guys would rather be the last on the queue so that no one would notice what they are buying.
On a personal note, it doesn’t bother me at all. I walk into a shop, pick my favourite Durex, pay at the cashier and off I go. Sometimes though, I notice that the young ladies at the cash desk feel a little bit uncomfortable but that’s not my business. Some of them may be wondering what a young person like me is doing with condoms but hey, don’t get confused with my babyface; I am married and those are for my wife.
I had an interesting encounter once. The young lady at the cash desk decided to engage me in a conversation on the brand of Durex I was buying. She was pleasant but the conversation felt awkward. As I approached her, we exchanged pleasantries; then she noticed that I had the blue Durex. “Hey, you should try the orange brands” pointing her finger in the direction of the particular one. “I use it a lot; and it’s strong” she said. Rolling my eyes a bit, I wondered why she offered me an unsolicited advice.
“The yellow ones are equally good. Don’t be fixated on the blue Durex alone. Be flexible” she said.
The lady’s audacity impressed me and we got into a conversation. The fact that she would give condom advice to a total stranger meant that I wanted to know more about her background. So I told her about myself; I mentioned to her that I have been married for about 10 years with kids and condoms were our form of family planning. “How long have you been married?” I asked. Nope she answered.
Hmmm, how do I reconcile “I use the orange Durex a lot” with the fact that lady is unmarried. I didn’t get the feeling she was trying to impress me; she was dead serious. She had been doing it a lot, using the yellow Durex, yet she was single. The erosion of societal values. I agree that no one should dictate to fellow humans how they should live their lives but yet, when core values are eroded, the society suffers for it.
The erosion of values is not limited to young ladies alone but to many young people of all genders. “Doing it a lot” could be death sentence to some people. With the array of incurable sexually transmitted diseases plaguing the world, many alterations to young and old lives are happening on daily basis and yet some people are still “doing it a lot”. There is a need for this generation to redefine what our values are; there used to be a generation when sex was sacred and not free for all yet they were probably healthier, happier and life expectancy was better than now.
On a lighter note, it was as if Google Adsense knew about my conversation with the “I do it a lot” lady; since that encounter, Durex ads have been showing up on my internet pages. Be it on Yahoo or any other sites, the Ad that shows up is Blue Durex (lol).