Dear Future Mother-in-Law,
How are you doing, young blood (Sisi)? Oh, I don’t need to ask, I know your business and your family are thriving because you are a total badass boss lady! By the way, how are you preparing for your summer holiday at Maldives and Abu Dhabi? Let me guess… You have gone on some diet again, so you can get a bikini bod (chuckles). Please, take lots of pictures, so you can tell me all about it when we meet.
People reading this letter probably have their mouths open, wondering how I dare boldly refer to my mother-in-law as Sisi and badass. Oh well, it is because most people can’t wrap their heads around the kind of relationship we will have; they are too stuck up on the stereotypical young wife vs. mother-in-law relationship to imagine that our relationship could be some other way. You do know that the general mindset is that a young wife is innocent and vulnerable, and the typical mother-in-law is a blood-sucking vamp?!
I’ll admit that when I was younger, I used to be caught up in that mindset too. Matter of fact, I used to pray that by the time I meet your son, you would have kicked the bucket or you both will be so estranged that there will be no place for you in his life (yikes!). Yes, I know… My prayers were mean and spiteful, but that was then. Then, I was so scared of having a mean mother-in-law that I never stopped to consider that there were other possibilities.
One day, a few years ago, I was out and about with a much older lady. She was so young at heart that I felt very comfortable spending all that time with her. We gisted for hours and had a lot of fun; you can even say we got chummy. When we eventually parted ways, I spent my journey home turning the events of that day over in my mind. It occurred to me then that if I could have a mother-in-law like her, would I want her dead or alive? Besides, in what world is it fair for me to have my own mother and pray for the demise of another? That day, my mindset changed and so did my prayers for you.
I realise that in the world of today, young wives are able to successfully distance themselves from their mothers-in-law but I want to assure you that my mindset has changed and I am sincerely looking forward to building a great relationship with you. I think about how you have raised such fine children and hope to learn some tips from you on how to raise my own kids too.
These days, our first meeting is something I fantasize about a lot. I imagine you are young at heart and that within the first hour of us meeting, you will develop a soft spot for me. I want to be so chummy with you that even my husband will be jealous of our relationship… Too much?! (Chuckles)
Oh, it’s not just imagination though; I have been praying about our relationship too and every time I do, I feel this peace in my heart that it is settled. I pray that, not only will you be a second mother to me, you will also be my confidante, shopping partner and friend. I pray now that our relationship will defy all forms of stereotypes that have ever existed and that our relationship will be so easy and effortless that when I call you Sisi, your face will burst into an array of smiles.
Some years ago, I never would have felt like this, let alone, write it but know that it is true now… I really look forward to meeting you, Sisi. While we wait for your son to stop pressing pause and find me, do take good care of yourself, body, mind and soul.
Always in my thoughts,
Your Future Chum.